Choosing the right first date matters.

While meeting at a bar may seem easy, staying alcohol-free for your first meeting can help you remain alert and in control. Alcohol can lower inhibitions and reduce awareness, so consider non-alcoholic date ideas such as visiting a farmer’s market, taking a walk, or meeting for coffee or tea. If you do choose to drink, monitor your intake carefully and never leave drinks unattended with someone you don’t know.

If meeting one-on-one feels uncomfortable, suggest a group outing instead.

Bringing friends along can reduce pressure, set clearer boundaries, and create a safer, more relaxed environment. Group dates help build trust naturally, and if the connection feels right, you can always move toward more personal meetups later.

Always trust your instincts.

If something feels off— even if you can’t explain why — it’s okay to leave immediately. Your safety comes first. Make an excuse, call a ride, or exit the situation. A respectful date will prioritize your comfort and well-being, and feeling safe allows genuine connections to grow.

If you or someone you know has experienced abuse, harassment, or harm while using Kumms or in any dating situation, confidential support is available 24/7.

You are not alone, and it is never your fault.

In the United Kingdom,

Samaritans provide 24/7 emotional support at 116 123, and NHS websites list sexual assault support centers nationwide.
Samaritans: 116 123 (24/7 emotional support)
NHS Sexual Assault Support Services: Available via official NHS websites

In the United States,

You can contact love is respect, a project of the National Domestic Violence Hotline, by calling 866-331-9474, texting LOVEIS to 22522, or using live chat at LoveIsRespect.org.

• Love is Respect (National Domestic Violence Hotline): Call 866-331-9474, text LOVEIS to 22522, or use live chat at LoveIsRespect.org

In Canada,

Support is available through Ending Violence Canada and Crisis Services Canada.
Phone: 1-866-863-0511 (toll-free)
TTY: 1-866-863-7868
Mobile: Dial #SAFE (#7233) on Bell, Rogers, Fido, or Telus
Provides crisis counselling, emotional support, information, referrals, and safety planning for women experiencing abuse or violence.

In Germany,

Assistance is provided by Hilfetelefon Sexueller Missbrauch and Telefonseelsorge.
Hilfetelefon Sexueller Missbrauch: hilfetelefon.de
Telefonseelsorge: telefonseelsorge.de

In India,

Resources include the National Commission for Women Helpline (181), Women in Distress (1091), and the National Cyber Crime Reporting Portal (1930)
National Commission for Women:
National Commission for Women: ncw.nic.in (Helpline 181)
Women in Distress: 1091
National Cyber Crime Reporting Portal: cybercrime.gov.in (Helpline 1930)
iCALL (Mental Health Support): icallhelpline.org

In the Philippines,

The National Center for Mental Health Crisis Hotline can be reached at 0917 899 8727.
National Center for Mental Health Crisis Hotline: 0917 899 8727
ncmh.gov.ph

In Brazil,

Help is available via the Violent Situation Hotline (181) and Suicide Support (188).
Violence Reporting Hotline: 181
Suicide Prevention (CVV): 188 | cvv.org.br

In Australia,

If you need immediate help, call 000 for emergency services. Additional support is available through eSafety Online Dating Support, the National Sexual Assault and Domestic Violence Counselling Service, Survivor Hub, No to Violence Men’s Referral Service (1300 766 491), and Lifeline Australia for crisis support.
eSafety – Online Dating Support: esafety.gov.au
National Sexual Assault and Domestic Violence Counselling Service: 1800RESPECT.org.au
No to Violence Men’s Referral Service: 1300 766 491 | ntv.org.au
Lifeline Australia: 13 11 14 | lifeline.org.au

Your safety matters.

Kumms encourages mindful dating, clear boundaries, and access to trusted support . so you can focus on building
eSafety – Online Dating Support: esafety.gov.au
For Kumms account support or reporting concerns, use the website contact form or Help Center to reach the Kumms support team